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Mental strength training is the fundamental skill to help you overcome your limitations. Getting in touch with the discomfort in the gym, is the foundation of dealing with emotional discomfort. To face your fears and push through in a safe and supported way, to achieve your life and fitness goals.

When we make a habit of doing things which are difficult in one area of our life, doing things which we would over-wise feel or consider difficult becomes much easier.

Challenging yourself in the gym, pushing yourself to find your limitations, your personal edges, learning to be comfortable with the difficulties of lifting heavy weights changes your brain. Feeling the discomfort, the blood rushing, your heart pounding, feeling the pain of the lactic acid build up in your muscles, all helps to acclimatising you to facing and dealing with the uncomfortable and challenging situations that stop us moving forwards in life, relationships and work.

It causes new parts of your brain to develop, new neural pathways to strengthen, so that with practice you create a new mental skill-set which hardens your body to discomfort but allows your mind to face new challenges with renewed passion.

From childhood, and all throughout our live, we’ve been taught self-limiting beliefs by our parents, teachers, peers, society and the media. This non-stop stream of negative information which tells us to stop, to not be ourselves, not to trust ourselves, to be quiet, to shut up and sit down, stop us from having the courage to implement the inner-wisdom and sound logical advice we all know can help us change every aspect of our lives for the better.

We must make an effort to re-educate ourselves with a different set of beliefs, ideas and philosophies which can support and empower us and challenge us to move towards being the best and highest version of ourselves.

Having previously been a Life Coach for over 20 years, I’m able to provide you with an incredible library of empowering ideas, and practical tools to help you implement real and life long habitual changes, which will positively impact your worldview and your understanding of yourself and the world.

To reach a different shore we must have the courage to let go of the one we know.

There are a number of important chapters in our lives that require us to metaphorically die, to let go and abandon who we were, to become who we must become.

The transition between childhood and adulthood, between being single and paired, and famously the midlife crisis.

What does it mean to metaphorically die? When our personality, our life, our hormones and lifestyle aren’t working for us, but are working against us, causing our inner child to slowly drown in stress, there comes a point where something has to give, the breaking point or the mid life crisis.

Like a seed that’s been buried in the the dirty, your inner spark got covered by piles of adult responsibility, stress and seriously sleep deprivation posing as the success you imagined adulthood meant. And that childlike spark inside you can die, but it can also transform into the birth of something else, the real authentic you, that’s not just a child wanting fun and love, but a fully formed powerful healthy adult with a love of life that you’re fully willing to fight for and protect.

Suicide, suicidal ideation, or ‘radio suicide’ is our inner self, calling for real, radical and permanent change. What we can learn from this voice, is that we require change so badly that we’re willing to do anything to make it happen. Also that we simply don’t care what anyone else thinks about us, or what were doing. We don’t feel loved or important. But all of that is potentially exactly the right soil for you to fundamentally change who you are.

The idea of Suicide is teaching us not to care about what anyone else thinks, about societal norms. That we can actually plan exit strategy no matter the pain of the current situation.

It’s a meme, but it’s true. There’s no better Pre-Workout than heartbreak, rejection or a breakup. Anger, frustration, emotional pain can all be fuel for genuine transformation.

But you can’t just throw yourself headlong into gruelling physical punishment to somehow compensate for the deep inner pain you’re feeling. Because that’s how you actually damage your body. Bad form, not knowing what you’re doing in the gym, excessive cardio, anger or ego lifting can wreck your joints, and cause serious damage for years to come. I’ve done it, made that mistake, and i’m still recovering almost ten years later.

Once you’re totally clued in on optimal safe and effective form, the best exercises for growing your muscles, getting shredded and significantly stronger, you can and should channel that inner pain towards getting the maximum results from yourself in the gym.

Instead of numbing or avoiding the emotional pain, like you may have done previously in your life, by drinking, over eating, sticking things up your nose, or sleeping with questionable randoms, in the gym and with the right guidance you’ll be able to get in touch with it, you’re able to feel it, to process it, and allow it up and out in a safe environment, where you can use that energy, that pain to push passed your previous limits, to become a new, stronger, emotionally more mature version of yourself.

Not fearful of rejection, not interested in wasting your time in dead-end relationships, that don’t support your personal growth and development. The gym, and watching your body and mind transform, becomes your therapy. Initially only you can notice the subtle difference in your strength, stamina and agility, but with time, persistence and dedication, the people around you will notice, they will sense your new sense of quiet confidence and inner strength.